March 21, 2010
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A Place of One’s Own
Ken and I have been living together since 1998. In May of 2001, we moved from the Fairfield-Bridgeport area up to Ellington, Connecticut, close to Massachusetts. We left there to move over here to Wisconsin on New Year’s Eve, 2009.Up until then, our place was ours.
I love my FIL; he is a wonderful man and a great roommate. He’s been helping us out in a thousand different ways.
But… our cat, The Sam cannot live here (the building does not allow pets), so he’s been staying with Ken’s cousin up in Sun Prairie. My car died in New York on the way out here, so we’re using Ken’s uncle’s car (and don’t think that I don’t appreciate that!). I’m grateful to all of my husband’s family for their assistance and support.
But… this isn’t our place, this isn’t our car, and lately, it feels like The Sam isn’t really our cat anymore.
We have a little bit of money in savings (tax refunds), enough for a first and last month’s rent deposit. Once we’re employed, we’ll be able to move out, into a place that allows pets.
We need to be in our own place, with our cat, saving up for our own new car.
I miss working. I miss being independent. I miss having our own place, where we can run around starkers if we feel like it. I miss The Dodge, even though it was a piece of junk, and even though I love Uncle John’s Oldsmobile (I call it, “The Yacht”.). I miss waking up with The Sam’s big fluffy paws in my face.
I miss Ma Petite Fleur (our little girl-kitty, Mikey, R.I.P.), but that’s a whole other story.
Please, God, let this be the week… the one in which someone says those two beautiful words: “You’re hired!”
I really need that.
Comments (21)
It always seems to happen that those words come when least expected…
Positive thoughts and prayers than it happens asap. hugs ~ V
You know I’m pulling for you CB. Hang in there dear friend.
prayers and fingers crossed…what work do you want to do?
I know SO SO SO well what you are talking about in having a place of one’s own.
all the kindnesses of all the strangers when I went through my mid-life melt down/career change, broke out of my mind period…were so totally kind! I even stayed with my mom for a few months and we did great…looking back I’m glad we had that although I had a lot of internal gripes about ‘space’ and ‘noise’ and this and that.
It WILL resolve! Mine resolved beautifully and I rent an awesome home and will be ready to rent the next awesome home when I get back to Cali. Things turned around. They will for you, too, and I hope it’s soon!
Awww, I hope you guys get all your OWN soon. I can’t remember if I knew you lived in CT before or not, but I use to live in Bridgeport!
It will happen. We have done it more than once. My wife and my folks became great friends on the ocassions we lived with them. How I know the sometimes ackward feelings you now have and the desire to get settled! We refused to give up and kept doing anything we could to get on our own. But at the same time it was a needed breather for us to regroup. Hang in there. You are doing what families should do for each other. It will happen!
Those transition times are hard. I lived with my parents for six months, with a six-year-old child whose every toy was in storage in an army warehouse in another state. Not fun, but it makes the new job, new home, new life so much sweeter when it finally comes, and you will never take it for granted.
This is all I can offer you, I’m afraid:
-huuuuuuugs-
we are on the same wavelength
wishing with you that these times will be a pleasant memory soon! Crossing my fingers for that phone call!
I hope your able to get a job soon. I know how hard it is to get a job right now.
I so ihope it happens for you SOON. Spring is here and everything changes for the better. MUAH!
I can sooo relate to this! I’m sorry…….
Praying for employment for you!
God Willing Nessa.I hope and pray that you hear something positive soon dear heart. Blessings and much love.
Ooo. I pray things work out. I said one for you. :0)
*thinking of you and sending positive thoughts and energy*… It will happen. peace & sparkles
I know how you feel. I am gettng really sick and tired of submitting resumes and going on interviews only to not be hired. It gets old quickly doesn’t it?
Hope everything is resolved soon and you are re-united with your pet too. (((hugs)))
I’ll be sending positive vibes your way!
May it be just so.
Good luck!!!!!!!!!
I’m going to visualize that change for you . . . promise